Bad boys for the win.....er....or not so much

A few things happened in the course of the day which made me want to delve into a blog about said topic. 

I didn't work...but I stopped by the office for a while anyway. While I was there someone mentioned about the Fed Ex guy being attractive. In which our secretary quickly said he is not the type of person wanted. That "he may be ok to test drive, but you don't want to buy him."  Whoa ok, point made loud and clear. 

As the day went on, I read a post on facebook by a friend talking about how girls, by and large, don't want the good guys. Don't want the hopeless romantics, who love with everything they have, who are caring and compassionate. That though they may speak these notions, evidence (at least for him) shows that this is not the case, that they will choose the bad boys, the jerks, the ones who legitamately don't care....every time. 

So I have thought over the past few hours, and several times throughout my life about whether this indeed is the case. 

Do women predominately choose the option that they know is not a long term option? The one who is going to ultimately treat them like crap? The one that can schmooze and say all of the right things but that's as far as it goes? 

Unfortunately, I think I have to say yes on this one. Ugh, that takes some coaxing of my fingers to actually type that out for whoever to see. 

But let me explain my rationale here. It will ultimately make sense. 

Chicks clearly for the most part have a side of them who want the typical "bad boy". It's not that we want someone with felony convictions, or the wife beater type, or you name it. It is that so often, with time, the opposite of a "bad boy", seems to be a pansy. The happy medium has ceased to exist. 

That medium is what we want...and all too often can't find. 

The attraction to the "type" is simple. Someone who is a "man"...who speaks his mind, who can command the presence of a room, who can put us in our proverbial place if needed, who can have calloused hands because they aren't afraid to work. It just seems with these, there is also the tendencies to treat us like crap. 

So the alternative is, those who are emotionally more sensitive than us, who manicures their hands more than we do, who would be completely content staying home and allowing us to be the breadwinner. 

Women are complicated you say?...no joke...I'll be the first to admit that. What we say and what we mean when we say what we want in a guy are often contradictory.

So I'll make it simple. 

What we want is someone who "could" put us in our place, but respects us enough not to. Someone who in public hides their emotions, but trusts us enough to let us in on a part of them that they don't show everyone. We want that person who does not have backwoods gender role expectations of women to be in the kitchen and not be in the workforce, someone who encourages our goals, our independence,  and motivates us to be more than we are, but still makes us feel safe and secure being with them alone. We want someone who makes us continue to pursue them, but who knows we already have them...and vise-verse.  We want someone who respects us and that we know would defend us, but allows us to handle most of our own battles. We want someone to be kind, considerate, respectful, and who wants to spend time with us, but not hover. 

So it's not that we don't want the good guys. WE PREFER THE GOOD GUYS..WE WANT THE GOOD GUYS.....

We just want a good guy....with a bit of edge.